Are you being mean to yourself?
Posted by Kristi Jencks on Wednesday, December 7, 2022 at 2:58:50 PM
By Kristi Jencks / December 7, 2022
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Are you being mean to yourself? 😟
Are you mean to yourself? Seriously, do you say things to yourself that you wouldn't say to a friend or even a stranger? I'm betting that you probably do. Recently, I witnessed my mom preparing for a doctor's appointment and it was an online doctor's appointment. My mom's in her 60s she just doesn't love technology and the whole time she just kept talking she's like, "I'm not good at this, I'm never going to be able to do this, I hate this, This isn't for me". I'm just like you can you get the picture, she was really mean to herself. She said some things to herself that I was like, "Ben that's harsh" and it got me thinking, let's say that all the technology was working smoothly and she was able to get into that doctor's appointment with no problems, do you think the outcome would have been different, had she pumped herself up as she talked to herself like she would talk to a friend? hey you know what you can do this, I'm sure you'll learn how to do this but no she was actually just manifesting all the negativity that she was saying to herself. So I urge you to think about how you talk to yourself and then how does it affect your performance. The next time you have to do something you're not good at instead of beating yourself up give yourself a pep talk it might change your outcome.
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